Great Kate Classic: He wanted some control. So I gave it to him. (2/7/09)

An act of cruelty, when done to a willing sub, is still cruel. A lie, when told by a Domme, is still a lie. Though I am a dominant woman, I am not unfair, malicious, dishonest, or cruel. For Femdom to work for me, I must remain true to my entire personality and not just the dominant side. I like to keep my sub in a constant state of arousal. But for him, this is often uncomfortable and even painful. So recently I've given him a little more control over that than usual. It wasn't much, but it was more than any self respecting Domme should probably give. Each night for the past week, after I was thoroughly satisfied and finished with David, I gave him the same option: "You can finish yourself now, or I can fuck you tomorrow." The offer was simple enough. All David needed to do was control his libido for one night. But much to my disappointment, the poor boy simply can not restrain himself. His arousal is too strong. Though he does, in fact, seem conflicted, it seems my sub would rather defile himself now than have gratifying sex with his Mistress later. This is disappointing. But I am an understanding woman. In an attempt to help him, I've provided David with incentive. In my most seductive bedroom voice, I will graphically describe all the wonderful, erotic reasons that David should wait. I've even stood above him and brushed my vagina across the very tip of his aching penis. I hoped that he might come to his senses. Unfortunately, all of this only works him into a sexual frenzy. And that results in even more frantic masturbation. Sometimes he begins immediately. Sometimes he struggles with it for a few hours. He's even tried humping a pillow, claiming that technically it wasn't masturbation. So, finally, I gave up. Last night, after giving him the option once again, rather than encourage him, I simply went to bed. David tossed and turned all night. He soaked his side of the bed, but to his credit, he DID it. He restrained himself. FINALLY! I was so pleased. And, of course, I am a woman of my word. Tonight I will have sex with him. There will be no conflict. No humiliating masturbation. Just deep satisfying penetration. And my sub understands this. All morning he's been as giddy as a child anticipating Christmas. The promise of sex with me has even emboldened him slightly. He has cleverly hinted a few times that sex is something that we should try more often. Though this ended happily for him, It was only after a week of disapointment and humiliation. David brought this entire ordeal down on himself. I, on the other hand, remained true to myself. I was generous from the start by providing him with the opportunity. I was helpful and gave him encouragement. David is the one who made this difficult on both of us. I offered him control and he squandered it. He is a man and can't think past his next orgasm. I can hardly be faulted for that. I even remained honest and kept my word. I am going give him exactly what I promised. And like any good girl, I'm open to his suggestion....that we have sex more often. My sub seems enthused to have such a generous Mistress. I wonder, though, if he'll be as enthused when he finds out that when I promised to fuck him, I actually meant that I would fuck him with a strap-on ;)